Consequences

A definition of the word consequence is a result or effect of something that occurred earlier. A good reminder – with every decision, choice, we make there is an outcome – a consequence.  No judgment, no criticism, just an outcome.    Some consequences will be beneficial and some will not. So the next time we are […]

The Domino Effect

Don’t like this or that?  Stuck in reaction?  Change it, you can do it by simply changing the relationship we perceive or have attached to this or that. When our perceptions change the representation of this and that in our minds change.  When the representation changes, our reactions change. It’s a domino effect and works […]

Are you in the game?

You and I were born to win.  However, many do not believe this statement and show up to play the game of life half-hearted and even defeated. When basketball players are on the court, they are not questioning the challenging height of the hoop or focusing on their opposition.  They are in it to win,  […]

Remembered

There seems to be less and less of what we can control.   And, this one thing we can be assured of is people forget what we say but always remember how we made them feel. So, how do you want to be remembered?  Is it for the time you listened to someone who was hurting […]

The world of duality……it’s real

Yes, this world is a world of duality.   A world of ups and downs, hot and cold, right side, left side and yes, negative and positive thoughts.  It’s part of the human experience but does not have to be part of our human condition. And, so the following story is told by a grandfather to his […]

I trust on me moment…..

No matter how big or small, young or old, life will present us with a trust on me  moment. A trust on me moment comes when uncertainty and doubt knocks on our door or when we find ourselves in new situations, approaching the unknown, and the only guidance we hear bubbles up from within. A trust on […]

Rite of Passage

Everyday you and I transition to something, someone or someplace.  These transitions are called Rites of Passage. Many will be planned like a wedding, many unplanned like the death of a loved.   In either case, planned or unplanned, transitions happen.  And, how you and I choose to label them (this is good this is […]

Two Voices

You and I have two internal voices – one whispers you can, the other shouts you can’t.  Which one we listen to is our choice. The bumble-bee wanted to fly and, in my  imagination I can hear its internal conversation …..I think I can, but the odds say I can’t… that may be, but something […]

Guarantees in life

Two things I can guarantee we WILL experience in life – difficult paths and difficult people.   Both factual and out of our control. What is not factual and in our control are our emotions – how we choose to perceive the difficulties,  project them on others and play the blame game. How did you do […]

No, we can’t BUT

No, we can’t control some of our thoughts, memories and feelings that at times just come up.  BUT, we can control how long we choose to camp out with them. No, we can’t control the words and actions of others.  BUT, we can control how we react to them. No, we can’t always agree with […]