Guarantees in life

Two things I can guarantee we WILL experience in life – difficult paths and difficult people.   Both factual and out of our control. What is not factual and in our control are our emotions – how we choose to perceive the difficulties,  project them on others and play the blame game. How did you do […]

No, we can’t BUT

No, we can’t control some of our thoughts, memories and feelings that at times just come up.  BUT, we can control how long we choose to camp out with them. No, we can’t control the words and actions of others.  BUT, we can control how we react to them. No, we can’t always agree with […]

When we need to express feelings of …..

When we need to express feelings of disappointment, it is best to follow these five simple guidelines:  Choose a neutral, calming place.  Perhaps somewhere in nature or at a beach.  Choose a time when you are not so tired.   i.e., 10 pm may not be the best time.  Choose first person words – i.e.,  I […]

Ready to decide?

There comes a time in every life when a person needs to decide what type of life they want to experience before proceeding. If you are that person and this is the time, then take the first step and observe your body’s reactions to your self-talk.  Why?  Because, most likely, this is where the problems […]

If you want to, you can!

Want to:  Live a life filled with wonder?   Choose to accept your perfect imperfections.  Live a life filled with ease?   Learn to accept the perfect imperfections of others. Want a new approach to life?  Begin with an attitude of acceptance and choose everyday to see every person, place and thing through the eyes of love.

They beckon for our attention

There are many voices in our head.  Some louder than others, some recognizable, some are not; some make us feel good, some do not.  And, the one thing they have in common is they are constantly beckoning for our attention.    Listen carefully because the voice we give our attention to will be the voice […]

What are we identifying with?

Part of our identity is tied to our choices and when we make I’m afraid choices, we limit how far we can grow and go Ronald Reagan did not identify with I’m too old. And, at age 69 ran and won the Presidency of the US.     Yuichiro Miura of Japan did not identify with […]

Decide today!

To Master the Art of Understanding, embrace the three strategies listed below and avoid hearing someone scream, ARE YOU LISTENING TO ME: Stop the dialogue in your head Listen without judgment or giving opinions Ask for clarity, don’t assume you heard_______ A Chinese Philosopher reminds us to truly listen, we empty the mind and listen with […]

Want more or less?

Want more peace?   It’s simple, STOP long enough to look inside for your truth. Want less conflict?   That’s simple too, STOP thinking and comparing what he/she/they should have said or done. Want less confusion?  Really simple, STOP bringing up hurts from the past, let go and forgive. Want more love?  Simply be the love you […]

Inside of us?

Our background experiences may have influenced who we are at the moment, but we are responsible for who we become. Emerson reminds us what lies behind us and what lies in front of us pales in comparison to what lies inside of us. When we decide to be extraordinary, we will be extraordinary.  It’s as […]