What would we hear if we asked our inner child what he/she wanted and needed? Ask, then listen.
Would we hear:
I need to feel loved because when I feel loved I feel special.
I want to feel heard because when I feel I am heard, I feel I matter.
I need to feel safe because when I feel safe I am encouraged to take the next step.
Or, would we hear:
I need a new house because when I have a new house I feel successful.
I want a new car because when I have a new car I feel important.